Why wouldn't your mum let you live with your father? If money is a problem I can see it,but if it's only becouse she dosen't like him that would be just mistrusting him becouse of the divorce. Also I could see she wouldn't want you to leave her with your step dad. If your father's long work days are the problem It won't be a problem,becouse I think if you are 14 you can look after yourself.Both of my parents work from 7AM to 11PM and I can look after myself.Maybe you could learn to cook some really basic things for lunch or dinner,also you could get a little bit alone but then you can all your friends to do something.
Well his long work days are not a problem for me. I can cook and all that stuff. Also, my mom doesnt mistrust my dad at all (even though he is very forgetful but thats besides the point). The problem my mom has (at least this is what I am guessing) is that she doesnt want the family to be split up. I tried to convince her in the past that that wasnt really a problem cuz its right next door, but that failed. I have two older brothers (28 and 33) and when my mom divorced their dad (she divorced him in the early 90's cuz he became a drug addict), my brother's decided to stay with him in Philly to finish out their school there. She always regrets leaving my 28 year old brother over there, because most of the time he was alone and had to do literally just about everything by himself plus manage his diabetes at only 13, and she always regrets not seeing him and helping him more. Plus she thinks that is the reason he doesnt talk to her anymore (which it is not) and I think she doesnt want the same thing to happen.
Tell your mom that you promise to see her often and that you think it'd be best for everybody, and for her relationship with your step-dad, if you moved in with your dad. And promise her it won't be like with your brothers.
Tell her you're going to do it because you think it's best, and if it isn't you'll come back, and that she'll just have to deal with it. I'm sure even your step-dad would back you up on that one. You can't make everybody happy all the time, and the current system is a hell.
I HATE THIS FUCKING COMPUTER! I will just say what it was. It was a picture of Jesus flicking you off with "u mad bro?"
Anyways, the thing that is eating away at me is that he is literally drinking himself to death. As much as I hate and despise him, I just hate watching him slowly drink himself to death. Confronting him is futile though because he will never admit he has a problem (mentally or drinking). I think he goes through about two 24 packs a week which boils down to about 5-6 beers a day. Whenever he buys wine for my mother, he ends up drinking the whole thing because he can't stand that she takes like 2 weeks to finish a bottle of wine. Any advice on how I should try and help him?
Drink it all before him. No but seriously tallk about it to your mom I think there are people you can call about this.
She knows more about his drinking problem than I do from the start. The problem about calling a professional is he thinks they make these diseases up to gain money, and thus does not trust them.
Do you see any negative impacts from his excessive drinking? How old is he and how long has he been drinking like this? Were you exagerating the amount of beer he drinks? Alcohol can be dangerous in large amounts, I don't drink it, but my dad can get real pissed whenever he's had more than a few beers so I understand.
Wells there isn't uch you can do to help him, other than through your mom, but I would just go to your dads or a friends whenever he gets pissed. Find ways to help yourself.
