Having a relationship with a person who has a child . I am curious as to what the forum's opinion the subject might be. I might be able to get some valuable advice out of this as well .
I guess that depends on how old you are. Personally I don't want kids until I'm like thirty, but whatever. I could imagine it would be weird. Only worth it if you love her.
Treat that kid as a friend, dot treat like a son because shit gets awkward fast, in fact i know someone who is willing to put her daughter up for adoption just to be with some asshole who does not want to be around her daughter, its really sickening.
How old is this kid, anyways? I ask because, according to the research that I have read, children become attached [really attached] to their caregivers in between the timeperiod of something like 3 months to 3 years. [you may want to confirm that. I am pretty sure on the beginning, but not the end period, ask Stalin, he is a major in psychology I think]
I'm going to assume you're not that far along in the relationship (correct me if I'm wrong). You're fine for now, but a serious relationship with a mother is no joke. It depends on your situation and the woman. How are you going financially? How much free time do you have? Do you think you are up to the responsibility of raising another helpless human being, at your age? How much suppourt do you have, in terms of friends, family etc? Is the woman worth the hassle? How much do you love her? How much does she love you? I hate to sound insensitive, but these are all very important questions. They have a huge bearing on giving the right advice. It's a tough situation, man. But in my opinion, 17 is way, way too young. You probably don't have a reasonably large, steady source of income, your own place of residence, or a lot of free time. If you're just getting into her, then I suggest you back out and be her friend or something. It's too early, you probably don't have the ability/maturity. Almost no 17 year olds are able to suppourt a family well. It's ultimately your decision, and if you have a very strong and true relationship and decide to persevere, just know that it will probably be by far the hardest thing you will ever do, and that there is a very real chance that things won't work out. I'm not being pessimistic, I'm being as truthful as I can.
Most single mothers in their 16-20s are usually high school drop-outs that got knocked up and are desperate to find a man with a steady income to use. The key word here is "use". They most likely only care about themselves and their bastard child. I am inclined to call them parasites. I always ask myself, "why don't they just get abortions?", then I realize that they were stupid enough to have a child in their late teens and it all links up to them being a downright idiot. They bring up their children to be neglected and malnourished toddlers. That is why the children of single mothers are much more likely to have mental health problems and commit more crime. Incidentally, I am one. I do say "usually", though. Some of them are actually capable mothers.
