All he was to me was a sperm doner, in fact i wish I was born earlier so i could have given him a chance, I love and respect my mother, but in my eyes, I have no father.
We tried to have a conversation with him. All he says is "If you just listen to me I wont flip out" My mom fights back. And you know what? He still yells at her and he still flips out at her. I tried to speak up on many an occasion. That got me kicked out of the house for a night. And since my mom insists that I don't go to live with my dad, I am stuck there and have to just take it. That's why I put this thread on the forums. So I can let out my frustrations without imposing his wrath.
You just can't back down. That's the worst mistake. If he kicks you out of the house, do it. You don't need his shit, and you can tell him that. Stay with a friend, or your dad. I guarantee if you called your dad saying you got kicked out of the house he would take you in.
Well this is a long story but I will make it as short as I can. My dad lives right next door lol. When we first moved here, my mom and dad were already having problems and after about 1-2 years, they got a divorce. She then moved next door with my step dad cuz she had nowhere to go an eventually they got married. Then within the last couple years, he has gone absolutely berserk. The problem is not my dad taking my in (im over his house right now actually for the weekend) but its with my mom not wanting me to live over there. My dad works all day about 6 days a week and is only home at night on most nights, and she doesnt think hes responsible enough. Believe me, when my step-dad gets mad I try to go next door as soon as possible before I get somehow dragged into the fight. Its just that completely moving over there is not an option cuz my mom would never let me.
I understand that, but I find it much more peaceful and safe if I just keep my mouth shut most of the time.
Well it limits the amount of times he flips out and the lengths he flips out. It also limits the amount of yelling my mom takes for taking my side. So I'd say it helps enough.
If its enough to keep him quiet before my mom can get a job and save up to get enough money to move out, then I am all for it.
He sounds like a cunt and probably sees you as more of an annoyance then a step-son. I'd either leave permanently or try to be somewhere else as much a possible for as long as possible.
When he is not in his completely random frequent rages, he is extremely nice to me though. That is why I dont know if he hates me or I am just caught in the crossfire.
Well, I can't tell you what the man really thinks or how he feels. But if he's so keen to blow up on you when he's all hot blooded, then it might be his niceties are just him acting in his best interest. As you are a vital asset to his relationship with your mother, and having at the vary least a semi-positive relationship with you is a necessity. My advice would be to give him cold when he gives you hot.
