In life some things are beyond our control which can make who we are in this very moment. One moment or few moments in the past can lead to a life time of regret and anger thats is to hard to let go. In this situation what is best to do. I ask this because to me it is a very difficult and important question. What would you do to move on from the past, would you even move on. (please keep this serious I would hate for this to be locked down)
I don't know, pure apathy is what helps me. Also what's in the past is in the past, it's always better to keep ones mind engaged with the future and present. Time for self-reflection is of course also needed, but if it indeed happened under circumstances in wich you had no control, why bother yourself with it, nothing good can come of it. But that's coming from someone who admires an AI-solution of killing everyone because it is a more efficient way of problm-solving, so i tend to be less emotional than others.
You are way to vague for anyone to possibly answer this question because the answer will vary based on what people make of it. Are you talking about a relationship thing? Anyway, I find there's nothing a little humor can't fix.
As Kara said, it's hard to relate to your problem, as you aren't being very specific. Of course, you don't need to give specifics if you don't want to, but an example would be nice. Anyway, besides humour, cracking open a can of your preferred beverage and listening to relaxing music while eating your favourite snack sitting in a chair in the sun, letting your mind drift away into random fantasies and/or thoughts sounds pretty nice to me. Also, while I haven't had any massive depressing experiences that have haunted me for life, I've had some bad times, and in the end, what I've noticed is that just going on with life is the best thing to do. Accept that what's done is done, and you can't change anything about that. There will be a time where you can look back, and while it certainly won't make you happy, it won't make you as miserable as it will now. Thinking, talking and even joking about it will become more and more...comfortable. Just keep going, as you have no reason not to anyway.
It could relate to any situation from geting expelled from school to many times, to saying thing you wish you could unsay or undo or anything you regret but it will allways follow you becuase as much as you might hate your past it is still apart of you. I can hardly deal with it but what all ways makes me feel better is standing out side at night in the cold and reflect on the past, present and future and all the people dealing with the the shity lives the universe gave them..
In that case, accepting that what's happened has happened and moving on seems to be the best idea to me. Or, think about how much more shit others have it and your problems can't even begin to compare to it.
Mordin Solus told us time and time again that whatever done in the past must have been the right idea at the time. If situations change, and things have to be fixed to meet these new circumstances, then so be it. Oh, and if you are faced with a choice. Take heart in the fact that it is you facing that choice. As someone else might get it wrong.
Whatever you do, never ever run away from the past. Confront it, and rationalize your mistakes. Most importantly, accept that their is nothing that you can do to change what has happened. I have fuck loads of regrets in my life, and now I realise that if I had done those few things differently then my life would be alot better right now, namely decisions that I would give my life to change, because that the different outcome would have massively increased the happiness I feel in my life right now. In order to "get over" regrets you must recognise everything that is good about your life. And you must embrace the fact your life is your life. There is no other person on this whole planet that can improve your life other than yourself.
