So I was thinking of this question for about a month. If it happened upon me in the future that my lover was a transsexual, what would I do. I came to the conclusion that I would stay with my lover. It doesn't matter if they changed gender, we still love each and if we are happy then it's okay. My opinion on transvestites are that if they look like the other gender, act like the other gender, and think they are the other gender, they are the other gender.
Well if he or she is a transvestite and you don't know you should probably get your eyes checked out because I think you need glasses. A transvestite is someone who cross-dresses. Transsexual is what you're looking for. Did he or she lie about being a trans? Did they just never mention it? Either way that's not very good.
When I used the term Transvestite, I meant transsexual. I thought the term meant people who changed their gender. If I used the term wrongly, then I'll edit my post.
I disagree. I mean, I don't want to sound like a cold-hearted bastard, but I'm attracted to women, and in the long run it wouldn't work. But then I think your own sexuality comes into play.
I agree with yarpen, I mean just because you don't want to stay in the relationship doesn't necessarily mean you don't love them, it just wouldn't work. :/
It would be unsettling to know that your lover was another gender, but if they honestly feel like they are the gender they changed to, then they are the other gender. I wouldn't view them as the previous gender, but as the gender they chose to be. My opinion is the same as Rom, if you love him/her, it doesn't matter what gender they are.
I don't know. I have yet been to conceptualize the act of transsexuality. While not really being able truly understand homosexuality or bisexuality, I can at least, in some ways, comprehend it.
I doubt that I'd ever be romantically interested in someone like that in the first place, or that I'd be unable to tell.
TRANSPHOBIA EVERYWHERE. Gender is not sex, and to break up with someone because of whats in there pants is silly, that only matters in bed, so the only reason why you would break up with a transgendered individual is because your relationship is centered around sex.
The hypocrisy here is stunning. "Transsexuals can't choose who or what they're sexually attracted to, but it's wrong of you to be put-off by someone who's gone through a sex change!" Traditional gender and sex roles aren't incorrect. They exist because people naturally enter into them. All of this "gender politics" crap is just maddeningly stupid. You're not obligated to like or be attracted to anyone except for those who you naturally like or feel attracted to. You don't have to respect the sexual decisions that any other person makes. It's perfectly correct to label the LGBT community sexually deviant. You don't have to listen to or respect people when they ramble on about how they're confused about their gender or sexual orientation. Being different from the established societal norms doesn't entitle you to attention or tolerance and you should not expect them. Do what you want, but realize that you're not special, you're just deviant.
Let's say as example that you are homosexual (not you, you as "someone"), and your couple suddenly decides to be operated, because all this time he/she felt like a woman. Good for him/her, but you are gay, and you are attracted to men, not women, and sex is something important in a relationship. Eventually you will have to break up. That doesn't mean you now have to hate him/her with all your soul.
Well relationships are really. You'd break off the sexual relationship and become this thing called 'friends'.
If a partner changes her sex, its nothing. When they change there SEXUAL IDENTITY its ok. If someone "felt" like a women before, then they where a women, regardless of whether or not they had a penis. If they suddenly changed there gender as well, then ok. No, you dont, theres such a thing as a romantic relationship.
To you. Most of us are considerably less comfortable with it, and your reaction to that, your sense of entitlement; it borders on bigotry.
