As many of you know, the emotional bond between a parent and its spawn are extremely strong and can spurr humans and animals alike to due things that are considered extreme for the sake of survival for either the family or the offspring itself. My question relates to the bond between foster children and their adopted "parents". I know that the foster children can adopt the same parental-offspring bond that a normal family relationship would creat, but can the foster "parents" adopt that same willingness to sacrifice everything they own for that child, do they have the same feelings they would have for a child of their own flesh and blood? This might seem like a stupid question but its just something I've been pondering of recently.
Foster children and parents can bond the same, The biggest variable in that equation is if the "Child" Itself is willing to.
Thats a good point, but what if that child is never told he is a foster child? And he or she grows up believing that his foster parents are his or her real parents.
My old Psychology teacher told us quite a while back [dang, I feel old] that he and his wife adopted their kids. He said that they had chosen his kids' age to take advantage of the window in which this parent-child bond can develop. He knew of it due to his profession. I have some question as to the parents' loyalty to the kids and whether that bond would develop the same. But, of course, I would never say that to his face if I saw him again. Best not to test it out myself.
Then that is Disgusting you not only eliminated the trust of the child but you told it lies its entire life of course there will be no love there.
In certain cases it may not be such a "disgusting" thing to do as you might make it out to be. Some foster children come from parents who could not give a shit about that child that they gave birth to. Some might come from parents who are criminals, such as raptists. Why would you tell a foster child that his real father or mother was a piece of shit? If you tell them that you are not their real parent to begin with, would that child's trust or self-esteem be damaged anyway? Some information is best left untouched...
Damaged or destroyed trust between foster parents and foster child and maybe a loss of self-esteem depending on how the foster child takes it or feels about it. Plus, how will he find out. I'm pretty sure that unless the foster kid lives in a Hollywood movie, he would not find out that he is adopted... or unless its totally odvious. Like white parents adopting a black child.
Okay so after 40 years of being a foster child and being lied to and saying they are not your child, you would be cool with that?
