I don't mean to be putting my personal burdens on on this thread, but I need some advice badly. If you are in a no win/trap situation, where you pose the risk of estranging yourself from a loved one regardless of your decision or own opinion... what do you do. Do you contiune to stay trapped, free yourself but hurt yourself in the process, or attempt to mediate the situation. It is painful to do any of these things, which is where I need help finding the one that hurts the least.
The problem is that if I do this, someone will most likely go to court and a family dissolved and I would be offically homeless with another family member. All three of my choices have similar outcomes to this... so what I am to do?
A little more background would be helpful to give you a full answer. But if you don't want to talk about it that is ok.
Just say what would make (her?) happy. Even if its total bullshit you can easily escape and avoid what ever situation
The most I'll hand out, is that my father is having a showdown with my other relatives that involves me. So, there is very little ground to be claimed as the middle ground and it is starting to bit into my mental thoughts when ever it gets the chance to presist.
you really have to give us some more info, id love to help you as i like helping people(my mum is a social worker and my brother is studying for a Phd in phycology so you see our family likes helping people in those ways). If you feel you can trust or dont mind teling me stuff as i probably live on the other side of the world and have no idea who you are than you can pm me and i will try my best to help you. from what you said though, i say the best move is to "attempt to mediate the situation" as you said, and if all else fails, stick with your parents on the final decisions (unless theyre drunkards and beat you, than its a very different story, you see, we/Ieed to know more to help you)
Well the problem was that my father was wanting to take me with as he is attempting to get his own home again after hitting hard times. My relatives that he is staying with do not want to me to go with him because they don't trust his decisions and believe that he will not be able to accomplish anything and will end up in abject poverty again. So I was being pulled by both sides to make a decision that I really do not want to make as it well either make me stay with my father while he tries to get a new home which will most likely spurr my our relatives to sue him for their custody over me... further harming the family ties in the process. But it seems that the problem has subsided for the moment, I managed to talk my father into waiting until he as the adequte income and cash to move out of his present residence with our relatives, who own our current lodgings. I am not good at asking other people about advice in private matters, I am not a very open person to others and neither is my family... it seems to be a reclusive tradition. :| Well, at least I want to thank guys for trying to help... while I was in the way of you guys trying.
im happy to hear things seem to have worked out, as i sadi, if you need help feel free to ask for it. looks like the mediate option worked.
